tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post8016380184434458635..comments2024-03-05T10:19:16.909-07:00Comments on Ask Your Dad Blog: The 5 Dumbest Things I Did in My First Two Years as a FatherJohn Kinnearhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10217999409806454795noreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-36467558690483000822014-06-25T10:00:02.226-06:002014-06-25T10:00:02.226-06:00I laughed so hard while reading it, and even harde...I laughed so hard while reading it, and even harder reading these comments. honest parenting at It's bestAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-74687616028434629362013-10-30T17:10:14.527-06:002013-10-30T17:10:14.527-06:00I can honestly say I haven't bumped my little ... I can honestly say I haven't bumped my little man's head into the doorway. Yet. He's only one,,,Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-77579129959490717522013-04-04T14:43:10.261-06:002013-04-04T14:43:10.261-06:00Hahaha! I do this way more often than I like to ad...Hahaha! I do this way more often than I like to admit. I guess I need to be more conscious! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-19722491080278015202013-01-04T09:17:43.828-07:002013-01-04T09:17:43.828-07:00Love it!! I was exactly the same way about my kid ...Love it!! I was exactly the same way about my kid sleeping. I thought it was due to all the books I had been reading. Hell no!! I have one who sleeps like a log and another who is up at 430am every day.mommabrainhttp://mommabrain.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-23357316136670001772012-10-26T14:30:14.939-06:002012-10-26T14:30:14.939-06:00Found your blog from Matt Gephardt's facebook ...Found your blog from Matt Gephardt's facebook page. What a breath of fresh air! I like your style, your open and honest and say it like it happens. If I had a nickle from all the people that have given advice on child rearing matters they have never had any experience in I would be RICH! It is so much easier to hand out advice when your not the one going through the experience. All I can say is hold on, you just jump on the ride of a life time! Enjoy it, Cherish it. They will be teenagers before you know it......I am looking forward to reading many more of your posts! Linda Harthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07755783655832740204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-22901038711463523972012-09-21T21:59:02.118-06:002012-09-21T21:59:02.118-06:00What I would do differently.....
1) I would work l...What I would do differently.....<br />1) I would work less and be with my kids more, I have lots of maternal guilt! <br />2) I would give my kids less material things. I think each generation tries to give thier kids all the things they didnt have and it's now at the stage that we give them everything before they have a chance to know what it is like to really want (and wait for) something, and nothing is truly special to them.<br /><br />My kids are 17 & 18 and I was a single parent since before #2 was born. You do what you need to do tp get through but I wish I had given them more of my undivided attention.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-74357195741750625202012-08-16T22:21:51.409-06:002012-08-16T22:21:51.409-06:00...And kill Hitler. LOL! You must be a Whovian! ......And kill Hitler. LOL! You must be a Whovian! That being said, as the father of 14 & 12 yo daughters and a (almost) 9yo son, there innumerable things that I would go go back and change, not the least of which were some of your 5.My Synaptic Mistiringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05207585926027986143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-69041329341183129892012-08-16T20:02:05.277-06:002012-08-16T20:02:05.277-06:00Just discovered you thru HuffPost. Love this post...Just discovered you thru HuffPost. Love this post!<br />Here are my thoughts on advice - angelinequick.blogspot.co.nz/2012/05/babies-101_20.htmlAngeline Quick.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04113713867480528630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-63245070566478435292012-08-16T12:40:54.968-06:002012-08-16T12:40:54.968-06:00Giving other parent's advice....that is a good...Giving other parent's advice....that is a good one. How stupid we all were as new parents. (See there I go generalizing again!) That's the part about having kids that you don't realize until a few years down the road. Just when you think you know it all, the game changes and you're back at square one. It's one of those humbling life lessons. Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00364328726103315112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-88522152338374646552012-08-11T02:18:58.857-06:002012-08-11T02:18:58.857-06:00Comments make you happy? Ok.. well I hope you'...Comments make you happy? Ok.. well I hope you're able to welcome mine, abstract (and rather irrelevant) though it may be...<br /><br />I just discovered your blog through the viral "To my hypothetical gay son" letter you wrote, and I am reading it for personal reasons. I am 34 years old, the damaged daughter of a violent and abusive father. After reading your loving "REAL DAD" words, I am reading further into your blog to learn about the world of a Real Dad. I am learning how a Real Dad does it, what he thinks and feels, how he learns, how he teaches and nurtures his children - basically how the most important job in the world is supposed to be done. <br /><br />I am using your blog to undo my own trauma. I'm crying, I'm laughing.... I'm healing. <br /><br />You never know who you can reach out and touch when writing a blog, or what effect your words may have for your readers. For me, right now, reading of your journey is nourishing and inspiring. I'm not reading it to compare, or to say 'look at this great guy getting it right, why was my dad so shit', I'm simply educating myself on fatherhood, it's traps and pitfalls, the flaws and failures all dads go through.... and accepting the hand fate dealt me. Your words are genuinely helping to reshape my opinion of ALL dads, one that has been so coloured by own personal experience, I have failed to have true respect for the multitudes of regular great guys like you who do their jobs so well, so tirelessly and often thanklessly. <br /><br />I hope you don't mind me sharing my story here.. as I say, you never know who you might touch. I hope also that this message encourages you to continue writing and sharing. I am neither a man nor a parent but still, I am grateful to find your blog, both timely and useful to me on my own journey. <br /><br />Thank you and best of luck with your wonderful little munchkins! :Dlifelike001https://www.blogger.com/profile/05622238412053536482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-46677567231337640682012-08-09T22:16:16.810-06:002012-08-09T22:16:16.810-06:00Some mothers smack the head too... we just die wit...Some mothers smack the head too... we just die with the secret intact! When my husband and I adopted a 10 month old... (ok, she was and is an angel - the wings were a give away) and she slept through the night, ate everything not nailed down.. including lox, octopus, beans, yogurt, etc. We thought we INVENTED parenting... lulled into a false sense of security, we headed out to adopt a small boy (5) cuz you know - if you are SUPER competent with a baby a small boy who speaks another language is a piece of cake.. I still can only remember brief moments of that year.. it all turned out well in the end! So well, we did it again with a 6 year old girl. OKay - so what did we learn? We learned that good parenting is luck.. LOL No, not really. We learned that some days DO feel like a year... but the years feel like nanoseconds.. we are (sadly) done adding to our little family.. but what we have learned in our three adventures.. parallels what you are talking about. We don't have the family resources... but our friends are absolutely indispensable especially as we travel the path of conspicuous families.. I love love love my children.. and they have taught me exactly what I never knew.. and how much I still have to learn.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18242948230158367596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-57224281614323968652012-08-09T13:21:40.083-06:002012-08-09T13:21:40.083-06:00That part made me laugh out loud because we have a...That part made me laugh out loud because we have all done it. My son fell off of a curb head-first once (long story) and the second thought I had after picking him up was "gee, that really did sound just like a melon hitting the ground" To this day I can still hear it and I'm still embarrassed that thought occurred to me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-21810664980106271732012-08-09T08:45:01.269-06:002012-08-09T08:45:01.269-06:00I believe every father has smacked their babies he...I believe every father has smacked their babies head on a door frame or two. My husband did it with our first born. And then promptly followed up by dropping the remote on her head. It's a wonder the child has developed normally.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-62488864539148793872012-08-09T01:54:42.236-06:002012-08-09T01:54:42.236-06:00No more "condescending" than people who ...No more "condescending" than people who claim that everyone will start loving children after they get their own..Andreasnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-73899685476614044302012-08-08T22:08:28.870-06:002012-08-08T22:08:28.870-06:00My daughter and lovely partner and 17 month old ba...My daughter and lovely partner and 17 month old baby have moved from Calgary to our home - they are looking for work and a house here for the simple reason they want family around. They finally left me alone with him and went out just the two of them. They came back and he had a huge bruise on his leg where he had fallen off the sleigh in the living room before I could catch him (sleigh- long story.) I was convinced they would never leave him with me again.tessnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-4789631886614395392012-08-08T20:24:01.592-06:002012-08-08T20:24:01.592-06:00I tried to get one of the twins back to bed after ...I tried to get one of the twins back to bed after a midnight feeding, tripped over the very large black dog keeping watch in the nursery and smashed myself into the crib, I think the loud thunk I made hitting the crib was more traumatic to G. than the rest of the ordealAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-16790930624518932692012-08-08T19:20:18.006-06:002012-08-08T19:20:18.006-06:00I was an escape artist with a fledgeling talent fo...I was an escape artist with a fledgeling talent for traffic control. I surreptitiously escaped my crib/room/house/front gate in that order while my mom was on the phone, and scampered out into traffic. I started dancing in a busy intersection, nekkid as a jaybird other than my diaper. The cars didn't honk because they were afraid they would scare me. Sometimes it does take a village.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-54857362575961063742012-08-08T15:11:03.049-06:002012-08-08T15:11:03.049-06:00when i was an infant my father was bouncing me in ...when i was an infant my father was bouncing me in the air and my head hit the ceiling. he says my mother gave him a "i will cut you" look. i love your blog!Big Girl Pantieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07516786397220839886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-1403646434232985022012-08-08T13:19:03.517-06:002012-08-08T13:19:03.517-06:00When we were kids my dad smacked my brothers head ...When we were kids my dad smacked my brothers head into the ceiling of a submarine. We laugh about it now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-27453691442998245772012-08-08T13:10:05.205-06:002012-08-08T13:10:05.205-06:00When we were kids my dad smacked my brothers head ...When we were kids my dad smacked my brothers head into the ceiling of a submarine. We laugh about it now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-87751677200833941242012-08-08T07:09:34.371-06:002012-08-08T07:09:34.371-06:00Number 2: this is caused by "too much spare t...Number 2: this is caused by "too much spare time to worry". <br /><br />My wife was terrible with our first. When the second arrived it slacked off (a lot!). With the third our checklist is roughly:<br /><br />* Breathing/heartbeat ok?<br />* External injuries<br />* Clean<br />* Clothed and shod<br /><br />The third is a bit slow in speaking, but I'm more concerned about his current decisions to solve problems with violence. <br /><br />Great blog, BTW.Meihttp://mei.gwilym.net/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-2438494111192863492012-08-07T23:36:52.248-06:002012-08-07T23:36:52.248-06:00Exactly! I did it on more than one occasion, but o...Exactly! I did it on more than one occasion, but one time I accidentally threw her into it...while flying to the floor myself....it was a looooong night....trytobeoriginalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05457636685546397416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-77509074808017223832012-08-07T23:33:18.085-06:002012-08-07T23:33:18.085-06:00Exactly! I did it on more than one occasion, but o...Exactly! I did it on more than one occasion, but one time I accidentally threw her into it...while flying to the floor myself....it was a looooong night....trytobeoriginalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05457636685546397416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-11414498791057221122012-08-07T21:16:38.737-06:002012-08-07T21:16:38.737-06:00I would change nothing. Everything I have done rig...I would change nothing. Everything I have done right or wrong has taught me and Aido a lesson. And that's what life is about, learning. :)Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06590058301017822721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-16786186723103149492012-07-24T11:13:56.049-06:002012-07-24T11:13:56.049-06:00I hope you don't mind editing this post with u...I hope you don't mind editing this post with updates every few months or so; there's no end to the stupid things we do as parents. No new parent knows what they are doing, that's what makes it so scary and so fun.<br /><br />Hilarious post. I'll be following your blog from now on; not sure why it took me so long!<br /><br />www.dadandburied.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com