tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post5412704527538090171..comments2024-03-05T10:19:16.909-07:00Comments on Ask Your Dad Blog: Circumcision: I Need Your HelpJohn Kinnearhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10217999409806454795noreply@blogger.comBlogger111125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-51927507640138966382013-06-03T18:38:16.485-06:002013-06-03T18:38:16.485-06:00So what's the verdict?So what's the verdict?Nicoboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05259057053178143181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-79958202193058808792013-03-05T15:54:46.211-07:002013-03-05T15:54:46.211-07:00I'm a young italian physician, married with a ...I'm a young italian physician, married with a son; I was myself circumcised when I was a teenager cause my dad read an health magazine for families describing advantages of circumcision. I healed very quickly. By working as an anaesthesiologist I performed many anaesthesias for circumcisions and I support the procedure as healthy; the uncovered glans is helthier for a lot of diseases and easier to clean. I chose with my wife to have our son circumcised and we are sure it has been a good hygienic measure also for him. He also healed very quickly.Pahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17879484011790016459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-15898884016429145192013-02-08T02:39:51.458-07:002013-02-08T02:39:51.458-07:00Thankѕ to my father who told me about this wеbρage...Thankѕ to my father who told me about this wеbρage, thіs <br />webpagе iѕ gеnuinelу аmazіng.<br /><i>Also visit my webpage</i> : <b><a href="http://loansforbadcreditin2013.co.uk/" rel="nofollow">loans for bad credit</a></b>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-61977266361742176182012-10-25T03:57:50.182-06:002012-10-25T03:57:50.182-06:00I was circumcised as a child. One day, when I was ...I was circumcised as a child. One day, when I was about eight, I was in the woods with a friend when we needed a peeI. I noticed his dick looked very different and we started comparing as little boys do! Then he showed me how he could retract his foreskin and the end popped out. It looked bright purple and shiny but mine was a dull pink. I tried to pull what little skin I had left, over the head but it wouldn't even pass over the rim. My friend said this was because the doctor had 'cut' mine when I was a baby.<br /><br />In shock and disbelief at this news, on returning home I asked my mother if it was true. (dad has never been around, she was/is a single mother) She just laughed and shrugged and said "yes!' More shock! Then she explained it was her choice for me because she believes it's cleaner and healthier and looks neater. To her it was a simple incident in my life and not worth worrying about.<br /><br />But the thoughts of what had happened to me haunted me for some years. without any say in the matter, someone who didn't have a dick and a doctor to whom it was all in a day's work, had set aside a few minutes to make my dick look unalterably different forever. Later, when I became sexually active it troubled me to realise this minor surgery meant I could never experience or provide 'natural sex' with a female partner.<br /><br />I'm happy to say that eventually I married a girl who banished this baggage from my life. She has similar views to my mother and helped me realise that there are benefits and advantages to being circumcised. Not least that women appreciate sex is cleaner, healthier, and more stimulating for them without a foreskin to get in the way. As my ambition is to please her in intimacy as much as she pleases me, I'm now completely happy with my circumcision.<br /><br />Needless to say, both our sons are circumcised - my wife's choice and I was happy to go along with her. But, we will explain what and we did this for them long before they are the age I was when I discovered not all dicks look alike!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-87854955470233887832012-09-06T02:40:51.218-06:002012-09-06T02:40:51.218-06:00I'm a woman and the second guy I ever slept wi...I'm a woman and the second guy I ever slept with was uncircumsized. He told me about it before we ever got very physical because he was worried about how I would feel about it (this was after I confided in him about a mole on the back of my neck that my parents had made me self-conscious about). <br /><br />When he explained to me what was up, I was mostly curious...and a little turned-on, to be honest. I found having sex with him to be much simpler and more pleasurable than almost anyone before him or since. Now, every new guy I've ever gotten involved with, I secretly wished to find out that he was uncut...but sadly, they never are.<br /><br />I'm not from an anti-cutting group. Just a therapist and compassionate woman who sees no good reason for cutting and lots of good reasons for keeping! BTW, there will always be things kids will tease about. I'm sure, with your open-heartedness and courage, that your son will have great confidence in himself, which is way more important than "fitting in" could ever be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-8361519325510400362012-09-04T11:15:32.375-06:002012-09-04T11:15:32.375-06:00I was circumsized when I was 12yo. The only reason...I was circumsized when I was 12yo. The only reason: my family did not discuss sex or penises. So when I was having a bit of a problem keeping my penis clean (nobody explained how and why it was important) the doctor advised them to cut the foreskin. Am I unhappy? Let's say I don't blame my parents. But I would prefer to have all of me, and having someone give me that dad-to-son conversation what to do with your dick, where not to put it, and how to clean it. If there is no medical reason to cut, I would sincerely advise not to do it. We as a society do not condone female genital mutilation, why would we approve male genital mutilation? And the locker-room? Seems bullshit to me. If you are uncut and others are, you can say, proudly so, that you at least are complete, where others miss something, so instead of looking at the uncut boy, they might go complain to their daddies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-6817171169443018152012-08-17T12:22:47.366-06:002012-08-17T12:22:47.366-06:00I am biologically female, not a parent, and feel n...I am biologically female, not a parent, and feel no tie to or affiliation with any of the religious aspects of the practice of circumcision.<br /><br />This is how I feel about it:<br /><br />I personally don't condone circumcision. It seems to me a violation of one's body without that person's consent for what seem to me unconvincing reasons. The simple energy of intrusion it evokes to me makes me cringe and energetically retreat at the idea of it. <br /><br />Considerations such as the social one, of one's penis appearing different in environments such as the locker room, strike me as understandable. They just don't supersede the above consideration for me.<br /><br />I wish you and your family all the very best always (regardless of whatever choice you choose on the subject at hand, of course), and deepest best wishes for a bountiful, beautiful, nourishing birth of your son.<br /><br />Much love,<br />EmeraldEmeraldhttp://thegreenlightdistrict.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-46092803396779744212012-08-13T11:57:58.792-06:002012-08-13T11:57:58.792-06:00I'm about to go to your update to the post but...I'm about to go to your update to the post but wanted to share my cousin's post on the subject. My husband and I have three boys and had them all circumcised. The first one I didn't realize I had a choice the second I wondered why not and the third I left my concerns out of it and my husband decided. Good luck with what ever you decide.<br />http://memoirsofastarvingartist.blogspot.com/search?q=circumcisionAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-19714971872833743872012-08-12T14:09:34.201-06:002012-08-12T14:09:34.201-06:00i'm, cut. sex is awesome, so never really tho...i'm, cut. sex is awesome, so never really thought about it much. but darn, now you all have me thinking that i have no idea what good sex really is, bacuase I am cut and am missing out on an extrordinary additional pleasure universe. Well that just sucks. And lube aint cheap!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-12489003252589948442012-08-10T22:40:11.839-06:002012-08-10T22:40:11.839-06:00I am circumcised, but my sons are not. If they wa...I am circumcised, but my sons are not. If they want to get circumcised as adults, that will be their choice. The medical justification is about on a par with amputating toes to reduce the risk of ingrown toenails, and as others have pointed out, what's done can't be undone (though some try).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-57333929639951215812012-08-09T15:17:24.761-06:002012-08-09T15:17:24.761-06:00In all of the discussions I see on this topic, few...In all of the discussions I see on this topic, few people ever comment on the potential complications of the procedure. There are real risks to circumcision, however small they may be. If your child ends up one of the rare boys with a botched circumcision, how would you feel as a parent, as a man? I was circumcised as an infant and left with a skin bridge (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Skin_bridge). While I am lucky in that it is relatively minor in my case and more of an aesthetic issue than a functional one, it is still something that resulted from an unnecessary procedure that cannot be reversed and which left an important part of my body deformed and scarred for life. Growing up, I didn't understand what was wrong with my penis, but I knew it was different. I finally worked up the courage to ask my family doctor about it when I was around 12 years old, during the whole sex talk she had with me. To this day, I have to explain to every sexual partner I have "what's wrong with" my penis. To anyone considering circumcising their infant son, I advise you to take a look at the following pictures (http://www.circumstitions.com/Restric/Botched1sb.html). Sure, a competent doctor and proper aftercare should prevent such problems, but do you really want to take that chance? Do you want to be responsible for your child's penis ending up like this? What kind of attention, jokes, and teasing do you think a penis like that would get in the locker room?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-45422230551681470472012-08-09T06:24:55.245-06:002012-08-09T06:24:55.245-06:00Don't cut him, you'll save him a fortune i...Don't cut him, you'll save him a fortune in turtlenecks.<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9R_OLbfL28gEschatushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15062922009459962437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-43236869825340653362012-08-09T03:53:07.229-06:002012-08-09T03:53:07.229-06:00John,
I actually came to your blog through your n...John, <br />I actually came to your blog through your now VERY VIRAL post. <br />There was a German court decision a couple of months ago... <br />http://www.nytimes.com/2012/06/27/world/europe/german-court-rules-against-circumcising-boys.html?_r=3<br /><br />I will also post anonymously some of the comments that were made on my post of the article.<br /> <br />OK here comes my probably VERY unpopular opinion.<br /><br />I have no problem with circumcision and I feel it is every mans right to alter his body as he sees fit. Just as I feel if a woman wants big fake titties she shoudl go right ahead and not let what anyone else has to say stop her.<br /><br />That said Plastic surgery OTHER than reconstructive has no place in infant care. There is no informed consent.<br /><br />If my boys decide as an adult to be circumcised they certainly can. Had I made that decision for them at birth there was no undoing it at any point.<br /><br />Religion tradition is no excuse to allow assault. Should we allow men to beat their wives since it is also religious tradition????<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> The practice was started for a good reason. I understand that and no I am not angry at my parents for having me circumcised but in this day and age... medical neccessity for them is few and far between... We need to allow people, as adults, to decide what to do with their own bodies.<br /><br />With those couple of comments my opinion is pretty clear, but I want to say this. You are the parent and it is still your choice and you need to do what works for you and your family... your traditions etc. By and large the necessity for circumcision has passed... still YOUR choice. <br />After reading your other writing, I am sure your intuition and sense will lead you to the right decision for you, and I (yes a total stranger would back that decision) would back your choice no matter what it is. Simply because of the amazing human being you have shown yourself to be; I am confident that you will make the decision that works best for you and your family!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17734823714497902444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-41531512369304517132012-08-09T00:06:07.227-06:002012-08-09T00:06:07.227-06:00I am circumcised and happy.I am circumcised and happy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-60067792288761596132012-08-08T20:25:07.564-06:002012-08-08T20:25:07.564-06:00As has already been stated on this topid, the peop...As has already been stated on this topid, the people of Israel were commanded to circumcise their sons. Abraham was even circumcised as a full-grown man. While it may have served a hygienic purpose in a time where bathing was far less common, the main point was to set the nation apart from the others. Paul was addressing a problem: some Jews were telling Gentile Christians that circumcision was necessary to please God. Paul was reminding his readers that circumcision was never necessary to salvation -- that would mean God isn't powerful enough to save you; He needs YOU to cut your PENIS first. Silliness, right? <br /><br />He had no commentary on circumcision's physical benefits or disadvantages. His point was that it doesn't actually matter, besides its original purpose -- to set apart the nation of Israel.Mikenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-60391547884766981552012-08-08T15:17:44.669-06:002012-08-08T15:17:44.669-06:00Love your post! You got to the point
I leave in U...Love your post! You got to the point <br />I leave in US and I'm from Guatemala which in my country is really rare if someone gets circumcise I'm a mother of 4 boys , (8,7,4 and a newborn 15 days old) when I had my first boy born in US Utah, at the hospital they asked me if I wanted to get him circumcise as a single mom didn't know what to do so they told me I could have it done at my pediatrician office before he was a month old, so I called my mom and ask her opinion since she is a nurse and a mother of 2 boys too so she explain to me that it wasn't necessary that the main concern was hygien and that my dad was circumcised and my oldest brother was too and she said she didn't notice any problem between my brothers which one had it done and the other one didn't so my final decision was not to get it done!<br />Anyways years after I had my second son and I was on the same road about circumsicion but this time I wasn't alone my husband is circumcise but still was hard for both of us make the decision since my oldest son was 18 months already and I start noticing that every time I would clean him he would feel uncomfortable and some times cried and refused to get clean so our main concer was him what if he is gonna question us why his pipi is diferent but still we didn't want our second son to be on pain or discomfort every time it has to be clean so we decide to get the circumsicion on him and then our third son it was just easier to make the decision and now my 8 year old he complains bout "pain" when he cleans him self and he has asked why his pipi is different from his bros and we explained to him nd he seems happy with it!! So now my newest little man just bearly got his done and I just cannt get over the pain they go thru been so little pain that we made the option to go thru am I regret ? Just for this short period of time till it heals am I regret no to have it done with my first son ? Just for those days he says it feels uncomfortable washing it. Sometimes we make good decisions and sometimes we don't :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-25000882891036955972012-08-08T15:07:58.397-06:002012-08-08T15:07:58.397-06:00Don't. I'm cut, and really wish I wasn...Don't. I'm cut, and really wish I wasn't. It's not medically necessary, and unless your religion requires it *and* you're that observant, its butchery.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-72895803016928318112012-08-08T14:08:58.170-06:002012-08-08T14:08:58.170-06:00We've agreed not to. If it makes no meaningful...We've agreed not to. If it makes no meaningful difference to anything serious, and it involves cutting off something we're born with, I won't do it just because other people are.<br /><br />Aside from the differences when you're actually using it (which can be a bit hard to choose a preference for about as a parent), I've noticed sometimes that I'm uncomfortable with my clothes... then I realize I have the skin pulled back and the resulting contact is a bit painful. So I just try to find a way to make the adjustment without anyone seeing and stop the discomfort. Sometimes you just need to cover up. On the other side, hair does get caught in there (less frequently) and pulled. That's more painful and a bit harder to fix.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-89606352793129730382012-08-08T13:41:40.747-06:002012-08-08T13:41:40.747-06:00HI, I have not read any of the other comments. I c...HI, I have not read any of the other comments. I can tell you that we did not circumcise either of our boys. I am the father and the decisoin was left to me. In the end there seemed to me to be no medical reason to do it, and from what I understand it becoming much less common here. The thought of giving them that pain with no clear benefit was enough for me to say no. They are both under 4 still, so what effects this will have on their social will have to wait.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-49673603586537559622012-08-08T09:52:52.103-06:002012-08-08T09:52:52.103-06:00Our insurance covered the expense of it. Also, if...Our insurance covered the expense of it. Also, if he doesn't like it, then it's just one more thing he can hate me for when he's a teenager; I'm sure there will be many other, more important reasons by then for him to hate me. (no car, curfew, I don't understand him, money, clothes, homework). These were why I hated my parents as a teenager.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-54606058795142431682012-07-24T11:20:06.879-06:002012-07-24T11:20:06.879-06:00I wrote about this on my blog (http://goo.gl/1awTK...I wrote about this on my blog (http://goo.gl/1awTK) and got the most comments I've ever had, mostly from psychos who can't even begin to imagine there are reasonable arguments on both sides.<br /><br />It's not torture. It's potentially healthier. But it's not necessary and it potentially reduces sensation. But it has never bothered me.<br /><br />There is no wrong answer here. Nothing definitive has come down. Until it does, do what you think is best. That's all we parents can do anyway, right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-71103829854597320932012-07-19T15:10:27.992-06:002012-07-19T15:10:27.992-06:00It's ok. Typos are allowed ;)It's ok. Typos are allowed ;)John Kinnearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10217999409806454795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-17495560523036589822012-07-19T15:09:57.604-06:002012-07-19T15:09:57.604-06:00Krista, Thank you for your comment! Your cents are...Krista, Thank you for your comment! Your cents are always welcome here :) I sincerely appreciate your input. I'll be posting a follow up blog in the next month or so regarding how we came to our decision. I hope you'll keep reading :)<br /><br />Just realized how weird that sounds. "Stay tuned if you want to hear more about my son's wiener..." Oh well, thanks for reading!!John Kinnearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10217999409806454795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-42698631487446747222012-07-19T14:13:00.687-06:002012-07-19T14:13:00.687-06:00Dangit I wish you could edit comments. I wrote the...Dangit I wish you could edit comments. I wrote they're and I meant their. :/Krista Egerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02129448044986749175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-11840541045352531692012-07-19T14:12:23.737-06:002012-07-19T14:12:23.737-06:00I just want to give my two cents. After my homebir...I just want to give my two cents. After my homebirth (second baby) I got into the natural birth community. What drove me out? They're bullying about circumcision. Seriously. People can get really extreme and extremely rude. I really hope you haven't encountered those people. <br /><br />This is how I feel: My son was circumcised. This was before I even found out people were against it. I just did it because that's just what you do. Didn't really think twice. Now I regret it. Why? Because 1-there's no (real) reason, 2-he had absolutely no say in it, 3-I can't take it back. If we have another boy, he's keeping it. <br /><br />By the time your son is a teenager, there's going to be a lot more uncircumcised kids. A lot of insurances no longer cover it, and a lot more people are choosing not to.Krista Egerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02129448044986749175noreply@blogger.com