tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post4395442171065857082..comments2024-03-05T10:19:16.909-07:00Comments on Ask Your Dad Blog: The Wrong Way to Support Your Wife BreastfeedingJohn Kinnearhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10217999409806454795noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-57764071105027668812016-01-26T18:18:47.123-07:002016-01-26T18:18:47.123-07:00Love reading your blog so far. Well done for respo...Love reading your blog so far. Well done for responding to what sounded like a troll just there so peacefully. Having just had our second baby, who I'm breastfeeding as I type!, your blog is very relevant to me. You and your wife both write in a very amusing way! Thanks (from a British breastfeeding mum awake in the early hours!)Cerinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-73850598418940179562014-08-08T17:39:52.603-06:002014-08-08T17:39:52.603-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15766042371051536199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-56624774420202191542014-08-08T15:22:28.329-06:002014-08-08T15:22:28.329-06:00Well said!Well said!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-68520254382405346262014-08-08T14:21:39.525-06:002014-08-08T14:21:39.525-06:00Thanks Scott! Glad you liked it!Thanks Scott! Glad you liked it!John Kinnearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10217999409806454795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-27292581293262945772014-08-08T14:12:24.344-06:002014-08-08T14:12:24.344-06:00Hate mail for me of hate mail for you? If you mean...Hate mail for me of hate mail for you? If you mean for you, I certainly hope nobody hates you for presenting an opinion contrary to mine. I'm sure there is much more we agree with than not.<br /><br />I think the place where we may have parted ways in the understanding of what I was trying to convey in the piece is best reflected by this part of your comment. "Fathers should ABSOLUTELY have a say in the nutrition of his child. This should be discussed and agreed upon before conceiving."<br /><br />I agree that dads should have a say. I don't think I wrote to the contrary. What I regretted doing was assuming, and committing to something we had yet to actually discuss. Of course I wanted her to breast feed, but the decision is ultimately hers. I couldn't make her do it, nor would I want to. The logistics of forcing someone to breastfeed are at once horrifying and confounding to even contemplate. So I won't. <br /><br />Regarding the second part of the quoted portion of your comment: "This should be discussed and agreed upon before conceiving." Oh Lindsey... even with my affinity and love of writing lists, I could not fathom writing a list that could contain the multitudes of things I wish we had talked through before having children. I'll go ahead and add your suggestion to it if I ever do. Along with making lactation distribution decisions I would also like to add "who has to clean the tub after the kid poops in it?" and "what is the protocol for establishing who gets to sleep in on which days?" and "how many times in a row do I have to pretend to like Yo Gabba Gabba before I finally go insane and start throwing things?" See, the list could go on and on. The fact of the matter is this, Lindsey. 95% of parenting is done on the fly. Sure, we can foresee some things, and try and plan for them, but even at our best how often do those plans come to fruition. So I stay adaptable. <br /><br />One last point. I, like Matt, who I assume is your husband, was and am involved in all decisions regarding our kids. They don't all end up being a 50-50 split. On some I have more sway than my wife and in others, especially ones involving her body, she does. That means if she wants to breast feed, she has a majority share in that decision. Or if she wants (or doesn't want) to get pregnant again, she controls more than 50%. That doesn't mean she doesn't consider, welcome, and appreciate my input. But it is a women's rights issue - because I don't own her or her body. No ring on her finger or license with the state gives me the right to tell her what to do with it. Sure, I can make suggestions - as she can with me, but at the end of the day (and at the beginning of the day and in the middle of the day) her body belongs to her. And that is all I have to say about that. <br /><br />Anyway... I am rambling. I really appreciate you reading my blog, and I appreciate you having the courage to attach your name to a comment where you call me irresponsible and weak. I mean that. Usually comments like that are anonymous. So bravo for your bravado. <br /><br />Please keep reading. You're always welcome here. <br />John Kinnearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10217999409806454795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-30361712864936577852014-08-08T13:27:29.502-06:002014-08-08T13:27:29.502-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15766042371051536199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-50421921628458940622014-08-07T14:09:00.583-06:002014-08-07T14:09:00.583-06:00yay for communication! and yay for breastfeeding!yay for communication! and yay for breastfeeding!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01165436399590375784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-55146061358273133552014-08-07T11:51:48.790-06:002014-08-07T11:51:48.790-06:00I loved hearing a dad's perspective and how mu...I loved hearing a dad's perspective and how much it all comes down to listening and communicating. Glad you guys found what was best for your family!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04080197155266782882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7385734613853151197.post-25954466470317199792014-08-07T09:07:03.848-06:002014-08-07T09:07:03.848-06:00This is an awesome post. As a husband and a fathe...This is an awesome post. As a husband and a father who experienced breastfeeding woes and successes first hand, it's refreshing to see other families also went through some of the same things my wife and I did. Really great post in time for World Breastfeeding Week!Scott Poseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13066506287583345438noreply@blogger.com